Zhana Vrangalova had hit a problem. On a blustery day in early spring, sitting in a small coffee shop near the campus of New York University, where she is an adjunct professor of psychology, she was unable to load onto her laptop the Web site that we had met to discuss. This was not a technical malfunction on her end; rather, the site had been blocked. Vrangalova, who is thirty-four, with a dynamic face framed by thick-rimmed glasses, has spent the past decade researching human sexuality, and, in particular, the kinds of sexual encounters that occur outside the norms of committed relationships. The Web site she started in 2014, casualsexproject.com, began as a small endeavor fuelled by personal referrals, but has since grown to approximately five thousand visitors a day, most of whom arrive at the site through organic Internet searches or referrals through articles and social media. To date, there have been some twenty-two hundred submissions, about evenly split between genders, each detailing the kinds of habits that, when spelled out, can occasionally alert Internet security filters. The Web site was designed to open up the discussion of one-night stands and other less-than-traditional sexual behaviors. What makes us engage in casual sex? Do we enjoy it? Does it benefit us in any way—or, perhaps, might it harm us? And who, exactly, is “us,” anyway?
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The Secret Life of America’s Greatest Swinger
Say you’re a guy who’d like some other guy to bed your wife. No? Well, it happens. And when it does, Dave’s the sort of man you call. He’s a demure doctor from a quiet neighborhood. But thanks to some rare talents and ubiquitous technologies, he’s also a star in the bedrooms of others—and a helpful guide to the joyful, lusty life of the truly modern hedonist.
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In an era when the Internet and hookup apps customized to every taste are unleashing sexuality in unprecedented ways, Dave usually needs a few hours just to juggle the weekend’s many possibilities. He is in his early 40s, a soft-spoken primary-care doctor, a tall and muscular black man with tattoos and a disarmingly boyish face—all of which has made him particularly sought-after in this wealthy part of Phoenix.
The best age to get married if you don’t want to get divorced
Conventional wisdom has it that the older you are when you get married, the lower your chances for divorce. But a fascinating new analysis of family data by Nicholas H. Wolfinger, a sociologist at the University of Utah, suggests that after a certain point, the risk of divorce starts to rise again as you get older.
MEN THINK THEY’RE HOT — AND IT WORKS
By overestimating how much women want them, men may increase their chances of scoring
A mind dismembered: In search of the magical penis thieves—By Frank Bures (Harper’s Magazine)
Why Women Lose Interest in Sex
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Boyfriend Pillow holds you while you watch ‘Steel Magnolias’
He’s the squishy silent type. The Boyfriend Pillow for lonely ladies brings new meaning to the concept of a stuffed shirt.
Why Do Groups of Men Attack Lone Women?
Trying to understand recent gang rapes in India, India Ink turns to a psychologist and violent crime expert.
Why more Americans are dying of suicide
When the public thinks about suicide, they tend to see it as something that typically affects adolescents and people in later life. But alarmingly, more middle-aged Americans are dying by suicide.
Cheating Moms’ Affair Habits Revealed In New Ashley Madison Survey
From work obligations to play dates, doctor’s appointments and so much more, busy moms have a lot on their plates. But according to a new survey, many are having trouble juggling their parenting responsibilities with a risqué extra curricular activity — infidelity.